Homecoming, Proms & Weddings

I am not a fan of homecoming, proms or wedding.  I cannot understand why mothers think their daughters need to get stupid dresses, dumb shoes to match, makeup, jewelery and get their hair made up special.  What really drives me nuts is that when it comes to these things, most of these silly girls or women for weddings, have this stupid notion that mommy and daddy will fork over thousands of dollars for THEIR wedding.

I do not understand why parents of girls go nuts over dresses and the like.  Yet for their sons, they do not.  The boys are the ones who are taking their daughters to these events, or who are marrying their daughters.  Yet the boys are expected to pay for all the silliness
that the girls and their mothers expect them to wear.

Homecoming.  I attended two homecoming dances while in high school.  I had to attend all of the homecoming football games because I was in band and had to match in the parade and then in the half time parade, which I hated.  I loved concert band, but hated marching band.  Unfortunately in our high school, when you were in band you were in all of them.

For one of the homecoming dances I attended I had a date, the other I did not.  The one I had a date for was fun.  But I did not go out and purchase a new outfit.  Why?  I didn't see the need, nor did I need any new clothing.  The guy I was with liked me, my clothing didn't matter. The year I didn't have a date, I should have gone home after the football game.  I didn't dance with anyone, and I did ask.  All my friends had dates, so I was a third wheel.  This is not fun.  I left early and refused to go to another dance alone.

Proms.  This is a dance I really don't understand.  No, I did not attend either of mine.  Why?  I didn't have a date.  I could not see going to a formal dance when I didn't have a date.  I was not going to dance by myself or with another girl.  And I wasn't going to eat the meal by myself either.  Back when I was in high school, the dinner was held at the school.  The boys weren't forced to take their dates to some ridiculously priced restaurant in a limo either.  I do not regret not going either.  I had lots of people telling me I'd regret not going.  I don't.   Instead I went to a movie with a friend, then after the movie we went driving around town with spot light type flashlight- remember this was the late 1970's and showed the lights in the windows of the flogged up cars.  Now that was FUN.

Why do these silly girls along with their parents, mainly their mothers, think their daughters need to have expensive dresses along with dyed shoes?  New makeup, jewelery, and handbags?  Why are the boys expected to wear monkey suites IE tuxedos, rent a limousine, take the girls to expensive restaurants?  Why?  It's a stupid dance.  Nothing more.  I do not understand why these dumb females aren't happy with a regular car and a suit.   I would love to see what would happen if a teenage male took his prom date to Pizza Hut or Burger King wearing a suit and showed up driving His car.  Or her mother's face!  I don't know who would be more upset!!!

Weddings. Yes I am married.  Yes I married in a church, no I did not wear a stupid traditional wedding dress.  I did not force my husband to be nor the best man to wear tuxes- that's right that's all there was the best man.  I had the maid of honor, pick what she wanted to wear.  All I asked her to tell me was what color she was going to wear so the flower basket I was making would match.  Still my wedding was too large.  There were about 30 people there.  I didn't want that many people there.  All I wanted was me, my husband to be, and those we asked to stand up for us.  His family wanted something bigger, so that is what happened. 

I can say that I know what most men go through when they get married.  Why do I say this?  Because most women are inconsiderate and bitches when it comes to the wedding.  These silly girls/women/idiots have this idea/notion that it is their day and their day alone.  They are the only one who is involved, they are who matters.  That they get to pick everything and what they want is the law.  IF it wasn't for the men they were soon to marry, there'd be no wedding.  They should ask the men for their opinion and USE them.

I believe that most women decide to have a huge and expensive spectacle because they are trying to outdo either a sister, sister-in-law or a friend.  I've seen it done too many times to think otherwise.

 And why do grown women have this notion that mom and dad are required to pay for their wedding?  That is something I do not understand nor can I figure out.  I say if you want to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on YOUR wedding, then YOU and YOUR HUSBAND TO BE, need to pay for it.  Parents are not required by law to pay for  your wedding.  My parents didn't didn't help with my wedding, my husband and myself along with his parents paid for our wedding and it was less than $200.